Forget ghosting… Well, ladies and gentlemen welcome to the newest dating trend, “Love bombing” If, you think you've met the love of your life? Stop. Take a few steps back. If the person is loving, caring, and affectionate, and they seem to just get you. Things are progressing rather quickly, and you start to wonder whether this is what you've been missing. According to Dale Archer, a psychiatrist and author states, “love bombing exists”! Have you ever met someone that is declaring their undying love for you after a few weeks, making concrete plans about what the future holds and making you believe you may have discovered love at first sight. You might have just become the victim of something called "love bombing”. This new trend can be very difficult to spot.
So many things to worry about when you’re just trying to make a healthy connection. I couldn’t believe this actually existed until my friend explained their experience to me. Knowing that someone would be so cruel as to pretend they were truly falling for the other person.
However, it doesn't last, and as soon as you show a slight hint of caring about anything other than your new found partner, they get furious with you and can manipulate you as being selfish. Archer states in Psychology Today, “they can't comprehend that you have anything else going on in your life, it's a form of conditioning”. It's a tactic manipulative people use, which can be a form of abuse. You might be dating someone whose narcissistic or a psychopath and not even know it. Narcissists can be quite attractive because they have traits such as ambition, self-reliance and tend to make bold statements.
Love bombing is the reinforcement, where one partner tries to win influence and purrs attention, promises and creates future plans. This creates a high level of co-dependence infatuation and can be a difficult relationship to get out of.
Fall for these narcissistic bombers and you might feel as though someone is trying to win influence over you. Best advice tread lightly and take the relationship slow.